Just remember Jason, for your bachelor party, when a hot stripper asks you if you're a bad boy or a good boy, you tell her you're a good boy, A GOOD BOY!!!!

Nelson, you told me to be afraid, to be very afraid...well I'm very afraid!!!

Okay, now for more details!!! I can handle them, I swear!

I want to quickly say that the stag was a success and lots of fun! I have to hand it to you Nels, you pulled it off and we drove around in style and it was nice not having to worry about rides.

I won't give out any details because it's a code I won't break but all I have to say is...."Are you a bad boy or a good boy?"

Twas a blast! Looking forward to seeing everyone again in 3 weeks!

Dino

So......?

SHITS GONNA GO DOWN!!!!

And Eddie's already feeling a little woozie!

Hello everybody!

Just wanted to take a second to say hello, I'm sitting here at work waiting to hear the results of a process that has been happening over here. You see, I got an opportunity to move over to the kind of geeky job that I always wanted! Not like my current job isn't geeky but the new one would be like full server room access kind of geeky! Only problem is that my current people may block it because of "operational requirements", that's GOV speak for "I'm being punished for doing a good job". So my current team is talking to the team I want to move to and apparently there has been a decision, just waiting for a sit down to discuss the results, cross your fingers!

So with all that going through my head I stopped to think about the Stag and I'm getting totally excited! We're gonna get F'n shit faceted! If I don't look the next day like I did in the movie then it will have been a failure, no pressure Nels...lol.

Laterz,
Ed.

Hey Guys,

Sorry for the lack of posting, I've been spending all my free time at work looking up stuff for the stag this week end, but as soon as its all set in stone I'll be sure to go back and reread everything and hopefully stir some shit up again... wasn't that FUN!!!

So seriously though, through out the passed few days I think I have come to two conclusions... 1) I've become quite the expert on strip clubs in Toronto and 2) I seem to have a very unique idea of fun, cause everything I wanted to do, no one seems to offer. That or I'm a very sick individual!!!

But its starting to come together. Hopefully I can follow through. My only saving grace is that you guys are all coming down and thats going to be the high light of Marks weekend. Cause as bad as I may be at planning this shit... as long as you guys are here... shit gets DONE!

Let the bitching and moaning begin!

TITTIES ALL AROUND!!!!

NpN

PS: Jase, lucky you... next I get to plan YOUR Bachelor party!!! Sheree... be afraid... be very afraid!

Yo yo yo,

I'm sitting in the airport waiting for my flight from alabama. This trip was good because I had a car to get around in, makes a big difference.

I'm not sure how much I'll be able to post before I head off to the Dominican on sat, which btw may be hit with a hurricane, so I'll give you a quick update on our housing situation.

We did the inspection on tuesday and everything was fine. We also reviewed the novel that was the condo documents, there was nothing unexpected. So we've pretty much met all the requirements, all that's left is to finalize the mortgage, which is happening tonight, and then do the notary on sept 4th. We're both pretty freaking excited.

Well that's not ALL that's left, we gotta get a fridge and stove, kitchen table, paint an other stuff, so there's still a long roas a head.

Talk to you all later.

Jimbo Jason

Sup,

D, I got your email yesterday. I responded today (didn't read that you would be free after 7pm so disregard my question)

Lets not talk about the stag on here cause I want to keep a bit of suspense for Mark. There is nothing wild planned but what ever there is might as well keep him guessing.

I'll probably be sending out emails every night cause its the only chance I get to do things, so keep checking those inboxes and reply to me as fast as you can so I have a daily update.

I'll get back to regular posting once I'm done "researching" Toronto's seedy offerings.

NpN

PS: What are your thoughts on Glory Holes??? Maybe a fun game of GUESS YOUR FRIENDS FLAVOR???

Nels,

You sent out an email regarding Mark's bachelor party but I didn't receive an email back from you after I sent you a response. Did you receive my response and so far what's the turn out going to be?

Dino

Well I wasn't going to let you catch up on the post count Ed so I had to post! lol...No seriously, what I wanted to say was that Nels, you know that out of everyone here, you and I could say things to each other in the open and I usually laugh and hardly ever take it personal. You just hit a soft spot when you were talking about children..

Tarra and I were pregnant over a year ago and she lost the baby and recently we found out that getting pregnant will be very difficult. We don't openly talk about it (until now) because it's not easy to deal with the fact that you want to have other children and you want your child to have another sibling but it may never happen. So we have considered several other options and we are pondering which one to go with right now but we are blessed to have Johnny and we are happy about that. So if I came across sounding really harsh I apologize and I know I need to take sensitivity classes but hey, we are not all perfect!I know you didn't mean anything directly when you mentioned what you did, but I just assumed certain things and lost it! (That's me kissing and making up)I think I have to deal with things my own way and sometimes it's not always the best way...

Anyways, enough with that! I love you like a retarded brother too!

Can't wait to see you all in two weeks even though we are a very dysfunctional bunch of guys!

Ciao

D

Hi all! So I guess if it's not fighting then you guys have nothing at all to say? I just found this series of videos on youtube, remember this game? This guy is pretty funny too...

Later all,
Ed.

I'm with Ed on this one. You guys gotta stop taking offence to everything people say.

So I'm in atl and pretty bored. My work was dome super fast so I've had to kill all kinds of time but it's been fun. I was so bored this afternoon though, that I stArted watching hanna Montana. Man that show is funnny.

Can't wait to go home tomorrow.

Peace
-Jason

Just for good luck...

Laterz all!
Ed.

Was up all, I just figured if I took up a whole page you guys would forget about the back button, put your differences aside and resume the good ol friendly conversation again, plus, didn't hurt the post count either . I'm so tired, I have to go now. Didn't use the CPAP last night, I wont be doing that again, today's headache just wont go away...

Have a good day everybody!

Ed.

I cant wait, 2 years ta go!!!

It's a cloudy day in the nations capital region. A single raindrop falls as the crowd's gather at the market across the street. A man drops his hat and quickly tries to pick it up before someone steps on it but he doesn't make it in time and looks visibly annoyed as he wipes the footprint from him now soiled hat. The wind is strong this day, so strong in fact that the fountain in the distance seems to be going only half as high as usual as the wind overpowers it's upward momentum and forces it to the east instead. A lone computer geek is sitting in his cubicle watching, he burps, mmm, pizza.

Ed.

And the secret is... I have a new camera...lol. Ah, the things I do when I'm bored...

Ed.

Ya ya, so nobody actually called "me" one but I just couldn't help myself, that movie was awesome! I think I say that at least a few times a week while being silly.

Congrats Jase! That's awesome news! I think you and Sheree are gonna do just fine and I wish for both of you all the best in life! So you know what comes next right .

So it looks like were in one of those heated discussion phases on this here blog of ours? It's funny because I was so close to posting one of my patented "cant we all just get along" posts but I've been crazy busy lately and just haven't gotten around to it. Now it seems you guys have worked it out on your own, I'm proud of you kids, now kiss and make up! The current events in the SF world have gotten me thinking, I keep going around in circles in my head about this Old Fashion vs New Age thing and then it hit me... It's all crap! I don't think it really exists, some of the things I have done in my life can be considered "Old Fashion" and some maybe not so "Old Fashion" but it's been all me! I think we are lucky in that we live in an age where we have the freedom to choose our own path, nothing is set in stone, we can all do what is right for us. I'm not trying to add fuel to the fire, just adding my 2 cents.

As for this thing about regrets, I think we all have em for sure. I only need go as far back as yesterday to find my latest and we all know about some things that I may have done in the past that I may regret now . I think I'm lucky to have so many great people in my life, people willing to stand by me and forgive me for the bad days, though hopefully few and far between we do all have em. Thank you all (you know who you are) for sticking by me and not holding it against me when I get a little out of line.

So what I'm going to do now is attempt to change the topic with a little reminder that it's getting quite late into the season and that if we are going to be planning any camping trips for this year that we're gonna have to start planning it now? So that's you Nels, balls in your court...lol.

Laterz all,
Ed.

Dino,

Since you didn't read my post I stopped reading yours right after you said

"Well I didn't even read your entire post Nels because after the part where you said "When you're 50 years old, had more than one kid, perfected married life and maybe done some reno on the house you paid off, then maybe you're half way to experienced, so none of us can say we know anything, we can only say what we think is right" I stopped reading because that is one of the dumbness things you have ever said."

So my laptop has been acting up lately, so I decided to take it apart to fix. Then since I had it in pieces, I decided to freshen it up with a paint job. Now I've spent the whole night spaying the shit out this thing and since I've been using left over paints I have I can't seem to settle on a color. At one point I was going to do this nice embedded image in white but the paint I used didn't stick to the plastic. So I tried touching it up but I've decided to just get it over and done with a which ever way it comes out I'll just live with. Its an old Laptop and I haven't even fixed the original problem yet so maybe this has all been a waste of time and paint! The things I do....

So now back to the issue at hand...
I really doubt what I said was the dumbest thing I've ever said cause I know I've said dumber things. But the fact that you got pissed off just backs up my whole argument about you. I never ever heard about Tara not being able to have another kid, and I'm sorry about that, but see what happens when someone just makes assumptions about how or why people do what they do or live their lives. Its never a black and white issue as you seem to think. There are multiple reasons why people do or don't do things, and most of the time its impossible to understand why someone doesn't do something the way you would do it. Life isn't that simple, that's why there are so many songs with the word COMPLICATED in them...

As for my previous stupid points... sorry buddy, I stick with them. You seem to think you have experience in this or that, well that's the BS. You have a 7 year old child. Can you tell me you have experienced everything fatherhood has thrown at you? What about when he's a teen, dating, drinking, drugs, friends, heart breaks, etc.... come on man you haven't started to experience the hard times... the fun is yet to come. You've been in an 11 yr relationship... so what... you think its smooth sailing now? Do you stop working at the relationship just cause its one year passed a decade? People don't break up, or get divorced after 25 years of marriage? There's an old saying that goes something like, A son asked his dying old father on his death bed what he learned over all those years, and the father replied "No matter how much I learn, I will never know half of what I thought I knew"

Experience... This is life man, it changes on the fly, all we have are EXPERIENCES that we've dealt with and try to learn from, but nothing ever happens 100% exactly the same way again and no matter how much you think you've figured something out, life can come and blow that all away leaving you there scratching your head.

You keep mentioning my stubbornness but D, it takes to to tango. The difference is that through out this whole discussion I have actually felt bad for some of the jabs I took at you, but you throw around your opinions without any consideration and I highly doubt you ever stopped to think about your comments. So listen to some Michael Jackson, I recommend starting with MAN IN THE MIRROR and keeping it on loop for awhile.

I love you like a retarded brother (I'm sure I get in shit for that comment too)

Well I didn't even read your entire post Nels because after the part where you said "When you're 50 years old, had more than one kid, perfected married life and maybe done some reno on the house you paid off, then maybe you're half way to experienced, so none of us can say we know anything, we can only say what we think is right" I stopped reading because that is one of the dumbness things you have ever said.

So the fact that my wife can't have another child, means that I don't have any experience when it comes to parenting and because my house is not paid off I don't have any experience in owning a home and the fact that I have been married 8 years and been with the same person for 11 years means I have no experience in relationships. Well buddy, I have to majorly disagree with you and although I know you can be stubborn and like to take jabs, I think that was a load of BS...

Hopefully your posts start making some sense soon because this is plain stupid!

Jase, Tarra and I are extremely happy for you guys! Enjoy your new home!

Dino

Congrats to Jason and Sheree. I'm truly 150% happy for them. The moment he told me they got the place I was overwhelmed with pure happiness for them. No matter what I believe or what I think, in the end I want the best for my brother and that's it. Maybe I am a "Stubborn Portuguese Guy" or I "Hold Grudges" but if I do then I maybe my motives one day will be understood. I tend to have a reason behind the things I fight for, I don't just go commenting on things without actually thinking about the multiple aspects. My mind does not work like that.

Dino says that god forbid someone disagree with me... Buddy, God forbid someone AGREE's with me. When's the last time someone flat out said "Listen to Nelson, he's right" I'm used to having to fight for my point of view and if I'm right, then I'm right, if I'm wrong then I'm wrong. I don't make anything of either outcome. So I have no idea what your talking about. This whole conversation was started by Jason informing us on his plans, then Dino throws out a "Nelson knows nothing on this topic, but I sure do" so of course I'm going to jab back. I'm sorry if my skin is thicker and the Raiding the fridge comment hurt your feelings, but if your going to sit there and constantly look down your nose at people then you better remember we can say things right back, and this BS about being more experienced cause you have a kid, a wife and a home really doesn't work until much later in the game. When you're 50 years old, had more than one kid, perfected married life and maybe done some reno on the house you paid off, then maybe you're half way to experienced, so none of us can say we know anything, we can only say what we think is right.

As for my regrets... any person that tells you they have NO REGRETS in life is full of shit. That is the most dishonest thing someone can tell you. And if they believe they have none, well that person is a moron plain and simple. Yes we all have different lives now and have gone our own paths, and maybe that path has lead to an awesome life, but there is always a what if.... It doesn't mean you're unhappy, it just helps to not make the same mistakes again. I've made many mistakes in my life, but I'm here now. Would I do some things over, F'in A I would! Will I try to keep the people close to me from making a mistake if I think there is a possibility of negative impact... Always. Will the other person like the fact that I don't agree or see things differently... Most Definitely. And that's not going to stop me. Especially if its my brother or sister. Which leads me to me being Old Fashioned... well no one is going to win trying to convince me this is a bad trait... Hmm to be old fashioned... So you're telling me that to think your family is the most important thing is the world, that there is nothing and no one that can come between them, no matter how bad a situation, no matter how deep the wound, you should always stick together... that's a bad trait. That in today's day and age, with Divorce rates on par with Marriage rates because working on a relationship is replaced with just giving up cause things aren't the way they seemed in the beginning... or Raising kids, with the fear of disciplining them cause you want them to be your friend instead of having respect for you, that's wrong? Or how about changing who you are and what you think to cater to what most people consider is not "Old Fashioned" and really only caring about what's right and Fuck the rest of them. I'll stick to my Old Fashioned Ways... It makes me memorable... and really why else are we here but to be remembered by the ones we infect.

So Jase, me and Dino will never see eye to eye, and in this case it benefits you. You get 2 really good arguments for both sides of the issue. I stick by my opinion that you shouldn't move out alone (which at this point, depending on when you take over the condo is already decided) FYI I've actually had multiple people agree with me so I'm not THAT old fashioned but in the end its your decision and that's fine, I'm not going to "Hold a Grudge" Like I said, I'm just happy it all worked out so far.

Also just so Dino realizes I'm on to him and his motive for wanting this all to work out... Jase let me ask you something.... How many Phone Jacks does that Condo have??? Cause I have a feeling you'll be getting a call soon about outfitting your new pad with some Video Phones...

Time for Bed
Nellie

So the real estate agent left a message yesterday at lunch...

Read more!

It's always the most stressful part of buying a house. Waiting to find out if your offer is accepted. Looks like you might have a bidding war with another couple. It's a large sum of money that you will be paying for 25 years but it's worth it and once you start paying your mortgage it becomes just another monthly payment. If you start now and you use accelerated bi-weekly payments, you will have your mortgage paid by the time you are 40 or even sooner!

Good luck and Sheree maybe you can keep us posted while Jason is away!

Ciao

D

Wagwan.

Just checking in before I head off to Hotlanta. Have a nice week everyone.

Hugs and kisses.
Jason

So it's in. Now we gotta wait it out. We should know by Tuesday night / Wednesday. The agent called us this morning to say that another family was making an offer today too so we automatically decided to forget the lowball offer game and get serious. So we let him know what we were thinking and he said that may work but instead we decided to offer what we were willing to pay and hope for th best. It's at the limit of our budget but we're comfortable with the amount but when you're dealing with that much money we wanna make sure we tried our best.

Wish us Luck!

Hi Jase,

Getting those docs out is quite the task, signing and putting your initials on about 100 pages...ok maybe I am exaggerating but nevertheless it's a little stressful but when it's all set and done, you can take out the champagne, toast and celebrate!

Good luck!

Dino

We got the docs to make an offe and my head hurts just looking at them. Wish us luck

Yes Nels, I guess I should have left the programming aspect out of the things you know how to do. Again, I was trying to make you look good. I also don't have time for this nonsense so seriously reply what you want, the bottom line is that I never said you were someone that was wrong or had no sense in life. I just disagree with what you believe in. God forbid if anyone does disagree with you, then you continuously try to prove your point like the stubborn Portuguese guy that you are. Give it up, whatever you want to say is fine with me, I don't hold grudges but we are all different and have different opinions about everything in life. I never said mine was better than yours.

Jase, thanks for stimulating the conversation, I would much rather tune in now and see how your Condo shopping unfolds. Good luck with that and have an awesome trip to Atlanta. Maybe you could go catch the Braves play....

Adios!

D

Sup,

So after a ridiculous work week, I'm getting ready to hit up HOTLANTA next week. Apparently I'll be spending the next 2 weeks there for work. I leave bright and early Monday morning, and get back Friday afternoon, only to leave again Monday morning->Friday again. I'm kind of excited but also a little nervous... It's my first official business trip. Apparently I'll be traveling a lot now, so I better get used to it QUICK!

After these 2 weeks, I come back Friday, only to leave for Dominican Saturday. I cannot wait for my vacation. I've been working like a dog the past 4 months and could really use a vacation. You know, the kind of work where you're the first one in the office and the last to leave, with a 10 minute lunch break. Ah well, I can't complain, It's better than sitting on my ass all day. Dominican should be fun, we're 8 people (3 couples, 2 dudes) and we're all a pretty fun, easy going group of people, so it should chill. Maybe I've found my sticky fingers... Yup there they are, they were in the honey jar. (It's okay, I don't get it either)

So after my ridiculously long week, I was really starting to have second thoughts about the whole condo thing. I was really mentally strained and didn't want to think about it anymore. But after talking to Sheree and my mom, they re-assured me it was a nice place, so we're going to go look at it one more time and find out what the next step is..... I think today may be the first real day of my adult life, kind of sad isn't it

We're going to put in a "Low" offer and see what comes of it. We have our limit, and I think we're both committed to not crossing it. The only major problem is that like I Said, I won't be here for the next few weeks, and I feel bad leaving Sheree to pick up the mess if this works out. She's assured me that she's up to the task, which is what makes her so great. I 'll be here on the weekends to help out, but still.

Anyways, that's what's going on here. I know not everybody may agree with our decision because they want nothing but the best for us, and feel like we're settling, but we firmly believe this is the best for us and have the support of both my parents and her dad which really helps.

Now I didn't meant to start up no fights with my posts, I just wanted to stimulate conversation. I completely see where my brother is coming from regarding the whole moving out only once we're married (after all we were raised in the same house). I'm not going to lie, I don't have it difficult right now, I live at home and I pretty much have the freedom I would want, but I'm not independent. I can't have people over, I can't walk around naked , I've had it to easy. I always have the backup of my parents to help me out, which is great, but I think it's time to grow up and, as Russell Peters says, Be a MAIN! If it happens great, if it doesn't, I can survive a few more months. I just have this itch to live alone, and I wanna try and scratch it now before it becomes a rash.

I know that my brother may not agree with the direction my life may be taking, but I know that no matter what, he'll support me, and that's what makes him the best He may be an old fashioned fart who probably still holds the door for women (they got hands, they can open their own damn doors )but that's what makes him who he is, and I don't think any of us would change it. So that's my little rant for the day. I'm glad this blog is up and running again, I even noticed I was knocked off the second place podium for posts (That'll change).

So any words of wisdom for things to do in Atlanta?

Maybe next week I'll let you guys know the next place I'll be traveling to for work, I'll give you a hit, it's Ja Makin me crazy Mon! Do you Think Dominic can visit south Barbados?

Have a great Saturday everybody, enjoy the weather.

The "post-modern" brother,
Jason

I'm not going to respond directly tonight cause I have other things to do right now, but I have to say.... "Programming, Computers and Video games???" really Dino? Those are the thing's you don't know about? And that's how you sum up my knowledge... That's funny.

The best part is that I know of at least two other readers right now that just got the same kick out of that last post.

Oh well I guess I should go program something in C++ or Pascal and then finish off the last level of Shinobi.

Can't wait to respond later on.....

Well, well, well the plan worked. I managed to stir the crap up on this blog! I love it! Yes Nels, all I do is raid your sister's fridge and get up on my high horse when I come to town. Makes me feel like coming even more! Makes me feel welcomed...Anyways, I hope that when you came down to my place, you felt like I gave you more hospitality because by the sounds of it, you don't like it when I come to town. Knowing how you really feel now is good..it's nice to air everything out in the open. The blog was getting pretty boring and now that we are stirring the crap it's more exciting.

I don't hold grudges Nels, you know that...although I wish I could the same for you, I voiced my opinion and tried to back you up but that blew up in my face! That'll teach me a lesson!

Obviously Nels, you have some regrets in your life by going back in time and playing out how it could have been for Jase if he opted for option #2. However, you did what you did for a reason and that's your business. You live your life, I live mine... in the end as long as you are content doing what you are doing, that's all that matters. When it comes to moving out, you are alone in your way of thinking. Sometimes you have to evolve with the times and you could choose to resist all you want but eventually things change. It's part of life...you can choose to be stuck in the good old days or you can move on with the times and realities. We are not the same people we were 20 years ago, I'm married with a son, you brother is getting married and will have children one day, your lover Mark is ironically getting married to a woman, your sister has 2 kids now, Ed is pretty much getting married soon (no pressure Ed), Greg is confused and Rick has moved on to dating strippers. We have all moved on and created different lives with amazing people (yes even you Rick), but it doesn't mean we still don't have a connection. Priorities change and now that you have maybe started a life with someone, you will see that your priorities will change. You will be spending less time in front of the TV playing video games and instead enjoy going out to movies, restaurants, traveling together, experiencing new places together, and I am happy for you. It's time that you enjoy that special bond with that special person...

As for Jase moving out on his own before he gets married, it really doesn't change much except the fact that he will be paying bills and taking on responsibilities. Sheree will still be at his place at all times but he will get to experience what it feels like to come home to someone that greats you when you walk in and asks you how your day was. Someone that will give him a great big hug because she missed him...it's such an amazing feeling to come home to that and why put it off for another year when you could make it happen now. I am not saying that Sheree will always be greeting him when he gets home but the odd time she does when she gets to his place before him, it will be special.

I also never said I am a specialist in all areas of our previous discussion. On the contrary, I will be the first to admit I know very little about programming, software and the other fun things that go along with computers, but there are some things that I have experienced that you haven't. It doesn't make me a better person, it just makes me more experienced in that area.

It's late and before I start rambling on about nonsense again, I will wrap this up!

Have a great long weekend Ontarians!

D